It feels like there is a lot of stiff competition when it comes to happy couples these days. Everywhere you look: Instagram, Facebook, twitter, snapchat, even couples holding hands walking down the street give you a run for your money.
If there is one thing we have learned in the social media era, it is that everything is not always as it seems. Now, that does not mean these are not actually happy couples, it just means you are probably spending more time wondering what their secret is rather than realizing you have already mastered your own.
The key to a happy relationship is actually quite simple: two individually happy people. There is no magic potion or lottery ticket to cash in for happily-ever-after. It just takes two people who are willing to put in the work.
One thing that is important to remember is that happy, healthy, lasting relationships are not built in a day. You have to start with a solid foundation individually and then build the walls up together from there.
The following are fourteen habits of healthy couples.
It is important to spend quality time together and have a strong friendship, but healthy couples understand that they cannot expect each other to fill every bucket. They have a strong sense of self, individual passions and desires, and their own ways of fulfilling them.
Men and women communicate differently. Our brains process thoughts differently and have different capacities for retaining certain information. The most crucial habit healthy couples form is to learn how to communicate in a way that the other person hears them.
These couples believe in each other. Healthy couples understand that in order to be supported, they must support first. They understand the value in the choice they each made to be in this relationship and they aim to help each other better themselves every day.
There are no two individuals who will ever walk this earth with the same DNA. Couples who have healthy relationships understand that you will not always agree on everything, and that is ok. These couples motivate, inspire, lift each other up, and have the utmost respect for each other.
Everyone has feelings and although they may not always be the same, they have the right to be heard. Healthy couples seek to understand and learn the ins and outs of each other. Each person recognizes that they may not have all of the same passions or needs, but they are still equally as important.
These couples see the glass half full. They believe in a world where the best is yet to come and they make strides every day to be a part of it. Healthy couples know the power they have in how they respond to situations instead of being controlled by situations.
Healthy couples radiate passion. They are passionate about life, love, and happiness. These couples appreciate the value of every moment and they have mastered the art of being present. They have dreams, goals, and ambitions all towards the same result: living their best life.
These couples enjoy each other’s company no matter the circumstance. They can spend the night in with take-out and a movie, head to the pub with some friends to watch the football game, or dance the night away at a black tie event.
Trust is earned, not given, and healthy couples understand that in order to have a solid foundation there has to be trust. They believe that by choosing to be in a relationship, means choosing to trust each other, and until someone proves untrustworthy there is no reason to waste time on suspicion.
Relationships are about two people coming together to form a team that increases the value of each person’s life. Healthy couples believe in each other’s strengths and complement each other’s weaknesses. They utilize both to support each other and form a powerhouse duo.
These couples understand the importance of having healthy relationships with the other people in their lives as well: family, friends, co-workers, etc. However, at the end of the day, they always put each other first. There is no question of where their devotion lies, and others respect them for that.
Each person in a relationship is going to have individual and unique needs which means sometimes one person will have theirs met before the other. These couples learn how to meet in the middle with the willingness to sometimes do something they don’t feel like doing, just because it makes their partner happy.
Healthy couples have a genuine, sincere appreciation for each other. Not just for who they are in the relationship, but for everything that makes them up as individuals. They take the time to say, “thank you,” and remind each other how grateful they are to have the other in their life.
Both individuals in a healthy relationship wake up in the morning and choose happiness. They each find validation, worth, and security within themselves. Healthy couples see their partner as an enormous addition to their happiness, but not the sole source of it.
In a world where every day is filled with pressure to be someone else, don’t miss the opportunity to stop and reflect on all the right things you are already doing. Take the time to tell your partner how much you love and appreciate him, how much he impacts your life for the better, and how you wouldn’t want to spend one day without him. We all deserve to live in our happily-ever-after.
Sarah and Samantha
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