One thing most people are really good at is forming relationships. It is almost as if the need for companionship is sketched into our DNA. Typically a relationship begins because two people find value in each other and naturally we find that pretty sexy. Unfortunately, that doesn’t mean we always choose the right friend, partner, or co-worker to form a bond with.

People come into your life for a reason; some are meant to stay, and some are only meant to teach you something. It is incredibly important to be able to recognize the difference. What you do have control over is who you allow to stay. What we have learned is that you become who you surround yourself with.

There are two types of people: those who will motivate, inspire, and lift you up; or, those who drag you down and steal your joy. If you are on a mission to live a happy and fulfilled life, you want to make sure you steer clear from the second. Negative people have a way of disguising themselves for long enough so that once you realize it, you struggle to get rid of them.

We have allowed enough negative people into our lives, and have had to clean the mess up after they leave, to know the five types of people you should stay away from.


There are some people who cannot feel good about themselves unless they are bringing someone else down. You have heard it before, misery loves company. Gossipers will mask their ill intention to find out information about you so they can go and tell someone else, by pretending to get to know you. These people will share information with you so you feel like you are forming a bond based off of trust, but they will be the first to stab you in the back.

Positive people do not gossip, and they do not surround themselves with people who gossip. They seek to understand, and speak highly of others.


These people love to be the victim. They believe that life has happened to them, and that they did not get a fair chance. These are the people who complain about everything. No one likes a Negative Nancy, and when you surround yourself with one, you will start to see the glass half empty as well. Pessimistic people create an environment where other people feel guilty if something is going well in their lives. They do not support or encourage others to live life in a forward direction.

Optimistic people understand that everyone is a product of their choices, and when they wake up in the morning, they choose to see the glass half full.


These people feel like everything is too much work. Lazy people will suck the life out of you. They have zero ambition or motivation to do anything. These people have a significant amount of bad habits, and if you are not careful those will become your bad habits too. They do not put in effort in their relationships, and do not bring a lot of value to the table. Lazy people will slow you down at every corner while you are trying to build a life for yourself.

Productive people understand that everyone has the same twenty four hours in the day. They believe that any moment not spent adding value to their lives, is time wasted.


For these people, it is their world and you are just living in it. Your feelings and your needs will always come secondary to these people. They live by the, “every man for himself,” mentality. These people will exhaust you of your time and energy, stealing every ounce you may have had left for yourself. Self-absorbed people view the world as a place that was designed for them, and everyone else should be available at their beck and call. They will make you feel a sense of obligation to fill their buckets while yours dry out.

Selfless people value themselves enough to prioritize their needs so that they give more freely to the others in their lives.


These people do not want to see anyone doing anything better than them. They are always worried about what everyone else is doing, and are never shy to share their opinion. Naysayers will criticize anyone they can get their hands on. These people will make you feel inferior and incompetent. They will drag your progression through the mud, making every excuse why you did not actually deserve it. Naysayers believe that they always know best, and you are wasting your time if you do not follow their lead.

Supporters are always a number one fan of the people in their lives and they take every opportunity to make those people feel valued.

You cannot live a positive life with negative people in it. You don’t have time in your life for the gossipers, pessimists, lazy people, self-absorbed, or the naysayers. These people will continue to drag you down and hold you back from moving forward in your journey. They will defeat you.

Positive, optimistic, productive, selfless, and supportive people will inspire, motivate, and encourage you to live your best life. These are the people you should surround yourself with.

Share with us the people in your life who motivate, inspire, and lift you up.