There are some phrases you have heard since you were young that you believed and now that you’re an adult you find them incredibly annoying. One of those being, Anything is possible. When you were younger the whole world was at your fingertips, you could be anything you wanted to be when you grew up, and anything really was possible. But, the minute you stepped foot onto the #adulting train you realize anything isn’t possible and dreams are only for those who don’t need to pay their bills.

Ok, so anything is still possible- but it comes with a whole lot of work and risk involved. The easier thing to do is sit back and get comfortable and complacent with just going through the every day motions instead. That is why when we have this sudden urge to make a change, do something greater, or to be something greater we pull the emergency break and talk ourselves out of it.

True fact: you will only ever achieve, have, and accomplish as much as you believe you will.

What if all it took was one step, one change, and you could live the life that you truly wanted? 

You may be living life on the straight and narrow, safe path right now- but there’s still a dreamer somewhere inside of you. Whether it’s something or someone you follow, watch on TV, or fantasize about- there’s a life out there that isn’t yours that you spend time wishing you had. What if all it took was one step, one change, and you could live the life that you truly wanted?

The greatest experiences in life are had by those who saw no lines, no limits, and no boundaries. Those who pushed the norm in pursuit of living a life greater than the one that they currently existed in. Your conscious has a beautiful way of alerting you when something doesn’t feel right anymore, when it is time for change.

If you are feeling any of the seven warning signs below, you are ready for a new beginning.

1. Things that you were once passionate about no longer excite you.

You are a person who when you love something you give it 100%. Recently the things that you were once passionate about take a whole lot more motivation and self encouragement to give more than 50%. You can have a calendar full of social events and care less because nothing really excites you anymore.

2. You are exhausted all of the time.

You are sick and tired of being sick and tired. You can get a solid ten hours of sleep yet you still wake up with zero motivation to do anything. Any task big or small seems to be increasingly daunting as the day goes by. You become obsessed with the clock, every minute that goes by seems to take longer and longer. All you can think about is sitting on the couch in your yoga pants and that is your only priority when you get home.

3. Your physical appearance has changed.

Let us be really honest with this one. Your physical appearance has a lot to do with your overall happiness. You have no motivation to go to the gym anymore. Putting effort to get ready takes too much work so you opt for air-dried hair and mascara. You begin to find comfort in food and before you know it the image on the mirror does not look the same anymore. We are not talking about the expectation of perfection, simply being comfortable in your own skin.

In your young 20’s you have a lot of surface friendships, friends who are based on convenience rather than substance.

4. Friendships look the same as when you were in your early 20’s.

If you are not losing friends, you are not growing. In your young 20’s you have a lot of surface friendships, friends who are based on convenience rather than substance. These are friends who benefit from you in some way: you like to party together, you run in the same crowd, you share mutual friends. When it comes down to the glue that holds the friendship together you are the super glue and they are the Elmer’s Glue stick.

5.. You are not in-tune with your emotions. 

You start to feel like you do not know what you are feeling anymore. Your emotions are numb and forgetting about your problems sounds a whole lot better than dealing with them. The things that used to get an emotional reaction out of you no longer get a reaction. And frankly, you just do not care.

6.. You are longing for something greater.

You grow up as a dreamer, dreaming every day of the future. Then, you get to the future and realize everything is not all rainbows and roses like you thought it was going to be. Being an adult is actually tough, and with every new challenge, you try to control it more and do it on your own. Reality is you cannot do it on your own, and as you become weaker the voice in your head gets louder, “There must be something greater than this.” You long for a deeper, spiritual connection. One with no limitations and one where you can trust in letting go of control. We call this a greater designed plan, specifically designed for you.

7.. Comfortable does not make you happy anymore.

Your daily routine has been good to you, it is easy and convenient, and it works. Suddenly, you start to feel uncomfortable in your routine. Even though everything looks the same, you are not sure if it is for you anymore. Your fear of giving up the good starts to be outweighed by the potential reward for going for the great. You realize that your comfort zone is not as comfortable and cozy as it used to be. This is when you ask yourself, “Am I truly happy or am I just comfortable?”

If you resonate with these seven feelings you are ready for change.

Time to be honest. If you resonate with these seven feelings you are ready for change. The first step to change is awareness: understanding that you are not where you want to be, whether it be people, job, belief, or habit. Believe that you are not stuck where you are. Then, it’s time to do something about it.

Change begins with you.


Sarah and Samantha

Sarah Cline and Samantha Messersmith founded Never Be Average to create a platform where women can come as they are- no judgement or criticism- and find real life support, advice and love. They are authors, relationship experts, life coaches, and public speakers who are helping women around the world write their comeback story. Through their book Revived: Life After the Affair and their website Never Be Average they motivate, inspire, and provide tools for women to unleash the power within themselves. You can also find them places like Mind Body Green and The Good Men Project.

Comment below and share with us! What is telling you that you are ready for change? What are you struggling with that is preventing you from being ready for change? Share your story that will motivate and inspire others for change.