There is nothing that makes me happier than quality time with my girlfriends. I don’t know about you, but friendship is my jam, and nowadays it’s easier than ever to stay in constant communication. Everything from text messaging, email, Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. We are literally fingertips away from catching up on the latest news with our girlfriends. If you’re like me, you like a friend who tells it like it is, who is honest with their struggles, and isn’t afraid to ask you when they need something.    

One of the things that took me a while to understand in my faith was God’s desire for friendship with me. I always looked at God as my Father, my Savior and my Creator (which He is) but I missed the bigger picture of having a friendship with Him. So when I prayed, I prayed about what I thought He wanted me to say out of obedience and respect, and to be honest, “following the rules”. What I didn’t realize was that God was yearning for me to drop the charade and go boldly before Him in prayer. To not be afraid to ask Him specifically for what I wanted or the specific burdens that I was struggling with. I was afraid to pray about what I really wanted because I didn’t want God to think I was being ungrateful or self-serving.

One the most impactful sermons I have ever heard was years ago. I decided to pop into a local church on a random Sunday, at that time I wasn’t going to church regularly, but that specific day I needed some inspiration. The pastor was doing a sermon on the value of selfish prayers. Value of selfish prayers? I know what you’re thinking, exactly what I said above, they shouldn’t happen. But no, this pastor was preaching on the importance of selfish prayers and communicating with God the true desires of your heart.

Selfish and prayer seemed counter productive to me, but I was curious, so I kept listening. And then he went on to talk about God and friendship. Something that was completely new to me at the time. He talked about how God wants to be included in every activity, every conversation, every problem, and even every thought. (Just like I said earlier, I look for friendship where I can be honest, bold, share my struggles and needs, and vice versa.) But, I never looked at God that way. This was a huge turning point in my conversations with God, and really, my life. It was okay! I didn’t need to be one way before God, and completely different in the rest. I could come before him utterly and completely myself. WOW! How beautiful is that?

“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened for you.” Matthew 7:7

This is one of my favorite verses because it is a great reminder that God wants us to ask for things. He wants us to be bold and direct with Him. He doesn’t want us to sugar coat or dance around the bush. He is a God who is passionate about you and his relationship with you!  

With love, 



Sarah Rusca Cline founded Never Be Average alongside her sister Samantha Rusca Messersmith. They are published authors, relationship experts, life coaches, and public speakers who are helping women around the world write their comeback story. Through their faith in God, their book Revived: Life After the Affair and their website Never Be Average they motivate, inspire, and provide tools for women to unleash the power within themselves. You can also find them places like Mind Body Green and The Good Men Project.