I have had my fair share of pain over the last ten years: a husband who was unfaithful over and over again, a best friend who chose another side, a supervisor with a vendetta to end my career, a family who didn’t understand- the list could go on and on. And to be honest, most of the time I would feel like whatever I was going through in the moment was the only thing I would feel for the rest of my life.
Failure….again. I don’t know what in your life may feel broken today, but what I have learned in my 33 years of brokenness is that the end is really just the beginning. It’s not a redo of the past, believe me, that never works. I’m talking about a new chapter, a new life, and a new sense of living.
Failure doesn’t have to be something you hang your sorrows on and let follow you around like the rain during Spring in Seattle. Better yet, if you allow it, failure can be the greatest blessing in your life. We have to change our mindset to see failure as growth, opportunity, and a gift. Everything in your past has been preparing you for this moment. I know, because I’ve been at the bottom of it. I’m not just talking about relationships; i’m talking about everything in your life: job, friendships, family and resolutions.
Look around you. Look at all of the pain you have seen, the heartache and the damage. I know it can feel like every wall is crumbling around you and there’s no way you’ll ever have to strength to build them back up. Now in the same thought, think back to all of the people you know who have ended relationships and found love again, loss their job and found success, people who had everything going against them and they found happiness again.
Go with me here. Do you remember the conversation when you could not believe so and so were breaking up, or the one where you could not believe those two weren’t friends anymore? Do you also remember your next conversation when you could not believe how happy that person seemed now? It is possible, I promise.
You see, no matter where you are in life or the pain you have experienced, you are not stuck. I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to give up on your own happiness just because life happened and you weren’t expecting it.
I know that there are still going to be some really tough things that happen in my life. It doesn’t matter how solid my ten year plan is, how prepared I am when making decisions, or the amount of money in my bank account. No one is exempt from life happening. But what I also know, and what I find comfort in, is that none of it will be a surprise to God. Every storm He has had me walk through has had a purpose and I’m better off for it.
Now stand tall with me my Sister Warriors, as we face this life together. Let us free ourselves from the brokenness of yesterday, and walk freely into the beauty God has waiting for us today.
PS- Here at Never Be Average we created a platform called Forgiveness Letters. These letters have been a powerful testimony of strength, triumph and forgiveness. If you are ready to let go of you past, move on and forgive, we would love to feature your story here!