There is not a whole lot that women can be certain of in life, but one thing that always tops our priority list is finding Mr. Right.

We require a few basics: good looking, college degree, established job, great personality, nice family, a strong liking for you, and a promising future. Oh, and there are probably a few other things you are really crossing your fingers for; which most likely include: he wine and dine you, take you on fancy vacations, put a big rock on your finger, give you a big house with the perfect family, and well you know, the best of everything else.

Now, let’s be honest. Did you come up with those expectations on your own or are they based on what society tells you that you should be looking for? Chances are, and you may not even realize it, the second option.

Social media is the worst contributor to the checklist. It only prepares us to expect the best. It tells you that you should expect the picture perfect relationship 100 percent of the time. The reality? All those things you have as non-negotiable on your checklist are not going to help you overcome the real challenges in a relationship.

If you are looking for a relationship that looks perfect on the outside to everyone else but leaves you feeling empty when your head hits the pillow at night, this post is not for you. But if you are looking for a relationship that contributes to your happiness every day and has your back when life does not go as planned, then we have a little insight to share with you.

Here are some qualities that should top your list:

1. You have fun together.

It doesn’t matter what you are doing, as long as you are with him, you know you will have a good time. From a simple night in watching the latest Netflix Original series to a week long vacation in Mexico, there is never a dull moment.  You know that whether you are with friends, family, or alone, he is always the same enjoyable person.

2. He brings out the best in you.

He has shown you a side of yourself that you never knew existed. That side of you is brave, courageous, and absolutely beautiful. Your friends and family notice your glow every time you are around them. He makes you want to work every day towards becoming the best version of yourself.

3. He puts in effort.

Complacency is not a thing for him. He takes time out of his busy day to remind you that you are a priority for him. Whether it is a “Good morning” text or a surprise date night, you do not go one day without knowing you are on his mind. It can even be a casual date night at your favorite pub, he always knows when you need it.

4. He respects your differences.

He loves your independence and sense of self. Your priorities may sometimes be different, and your needs may sometimes be different, he understands that. He does not criticize or put you down for the things that make you individuals. You get to be you, and he gets to be him.

5. He believes in you. 

He believes that you are capable of climbing the highest mountains and swimming through the deepest seas. He believes in your soul, and in your heart. Those are the two things he loves most about you. He encourages you to go out and conquer the world. The best part is, you know he will be right by your side.

6. Your imperfections make you perfect for him. 

He does not expect you to be one hundred all of the time. He loves you for your flaws because they make you who you are. His favorite time to see you is in the morning with messy hair and no makeup on because he is the only one who gets to see that side of you.

7. He is willing to sacrifice for your dreams. 

The relationship is not about one of you being more important than the other. He loves your ambition so when you express your goals he supports you in pursuing them. He is willing to take a back seat or compromise where needed for you to achieve your dreams.

8. His body speaks to your soul. 

He connects with you in a way that makes you come alive. Even just the touch of his hand on your leg sends sparks through your body. It is as if your body is a maze and he is the only person who knows the right course. The feeling of his body gives you a high, a taste so good, you never want to live without it.

9. He doesn’t just listen to you; he hears you. 

When you speak, he listens to understand, not just to respond. Your voice is important to him. He understands that when you express your feelings, that you have those feelings for a reason. He may sometimes feel differently than you, but you always walk away knowing you have been heard.

10. He has you no matter what.

At the end of the day, all that matters is you. Before friends, family, or anyone else you know that he always has your back. Even when he does not necessarily agree with you, he still stands by your side. You can have your worst day or your best day, and he will be there holding your hand. 

Choose to be with someone who gives you a reason to get up in the morning. Someone who inspires you to want to be a better woman for yourself and for the world.

Sarah and Samantha


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