How to begin with you.

A new year means new hairstyles, new beauty trends, new diet fads, and new must haves. A new year means a chance to start over, to do things differently, to accomplish things you have always wanted to accomplish. A new year also means more pressure, more anxiety, and more stress to keep up with everyone else.

More so today, than ever before, with social media at our fingertips non stop, we are expected to reach perfection. If you spend all of your time and energy trying to live up to society’s expectations you are never going to win. Your time is far too valuable than to waste it waiting for society’s validation of what you are doing.

We follow the crowd because it is just easier. The problem with that is there is always going to be a newer, better version of you. The reason is because you are never really being you in the first place, you are following someone else’s plan.

When you find your vision, your purpose, your created identity and start living for that person no one will ever be better than you.

So where do you even start?

Take a cold, hard look in the mirror. It is not easy to look behind your eyes and search for the soul that has been hiding there for a long time. You have experienced too much pain, heartache, disappointment, and betrayal in your life. That is why you look for someone else in the mirror. The truth is, the person who has been hiding behind all of it is the only person who is going to get you where you want to go.

You have to start living for yourself. You are not alone. As much as Facebook makes it look like all of your friends have their lives together, they don’t. They are struggling with the same things behind closed doors that you are. You do not have to live in fear of judgment and criticism. The world has better people out there for you to surround yourself with. Honestly, why would you want to spend your precious time worrying about what other people think of you? Turn that negative energy into empowerment, free yourself from your past and start living for your future.

You need a safe place, you need a person. Who in your life supports you and loves you unconditionally? This doesn’t mean who supports you as long as you are making the decisions they think you should make. This means who in your life motivates and encourages you to take the time to find yourself, to make mistakes, and to grow from them?


Sarah and Samantha

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