Everyone has a dream. The extent of it may look different, but at the end of the day we all have hopes, passions, and dreams. These are the things that make our heart beat a little bit faster, the things that set our soul on fire, and the things that more often than not we look at our life and say, “If only, then…”

Research suggests that only 8% of people carry out their New Year Resolutions. ONLY EIGHT PERCENT and that’s only a resolution. What about the percentage of people who follow through on their dreams?

Part of my dream is to inspire women to go after what truly makes them happy because life is too precious to settle for average. I know that it sounds liberating, powerful, and exciting to go after something greater than yourself. So when Sarah and I are around other women, talking about our passion, it doesn’t surprise me that most women leave the conversation feeling inspired to find that for themselves. What I see more often than not though, is when someone finds their true desires, reality and fear set in and quickly take hold of them.

Trust me, I get it. There are countless reasons not to go after your dream, I could come up with a million. The thing is, at the end of the day, the choice is yours: make it happen or take it to your grave. I’m a fan of the first option, and I believe every person who has a heartbeat has the power to bring their dreams to life, so I want to talk you through the three most common reasons not to do it that I see, and why they aren’t really reasons at all.

Fear of the Unknown

This seems silly, fear of the unknown, but if we’re all honest- we’re all guilty of this. For me, this is where my faith comes in. If a dream has been placed in your heart, it is not by accident. We were put on this earth to live fulfilled, abundant, and purposeful lives. We were not created to just keep going with the motions. Whatever unknown you are fearing is worst-case scenario, I’m going to bet it doesn’t include the world ending. Now, hear me out- whatever it is you’re thinking, it’s not the worst-case. Worst-case scenario is not fulfilling your dreams and living a life that is meaningless. That scares the sh*t out of me. That I can’t live with.


I will be honest with you, you absolutely have the power and the ability to go after your dream, but it’s going to be the most difficult thing you will ever do, and it takes a mass amount of sacrifice. When I left my job Kyle and I cut our income in half, with the same bills and the same desires. We decided together that we would make it work, whatever it took, and to be brutally honest, at that point, we had NO IDEA what it was going to take to make it work. We still have to say no to big things like vacations, toys, gifts, and we have to say no to small things too like keeping up with the latest fashion trends, spending $200 to get my hair done, and even cutting down on our date nights. We have to count ourselves out of extra curricular activities and filling our schedules up, and we have to miss out on things that would fill our cups in the moment right now. This sacrifice is only short-lived though, and through the sacrifice we have learned to live with less and find joy in the people and the things around us that don’t cost anything. That is priceless.

Reputation/ Fear of failure

This was a big one for me, even after leaving my job. You have this giant dream in your heart, but what if you take the leap and it doesn’t happen? As humans, we are prideful by nature so it’s much easier to take the safe route. These fears extend from the fear of embarrassment of failure all the way to, especially if your faith is on the line, losing everything you believe in if it doesn’t work out. Those are natural feelings, but then you have to ask yourself- what if you succeed? The true definition of failure is not trying.

Here I am five months pregnant, my business is growing, yes, but I am still far from that fancy paycheck I used to have. If you were to line it all up on paper, reality would say- Samantha, you’ve given it a good try, but you have too much at stake now to keep going. And part of that statement is so true, I do have too much at stake now, and that’s exactly why I’m still going. I look back on my life and every event has brought me to this very moment. The moment I go after something greater than myself and the impossible becomes possible.

“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20

I don’t know what mountain is standing between you and your dream today, but I am here to tell you that whatever dream has been placed in your heart, it’s not by accident. I hope to encourage you to tell that mountain to MOVE. And I will be here with you every step of the way. Please join me in this journey, reach out, and let’s do this together.



Samantha Messersmith


Samantha Rusca Messersmith founded Never Be Average alongside her sister Sarah Rusca Cline. They are published authors, relationship experts, life coaches, and public speakers who are helping women around the world write their comeback story. Through their faith in God, their book Revived: Life After the Affair and their website Never Be Average they motivate, inspire, and provide tools for women to unleash the power within themselves. You can also find them places like Mind Body Green and The Good Men Project.